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Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End

Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End

By Atul Gawande, Published by the Penguin Group (2014)

Reviewed by John E. Wade II


I highly recommend this practical, informative, and no-holes-barred book to everyone, from middle age to those who are grappling with the potential ending stages, which may include everything from life support systems to assisted living to nursing homes.  Many can also be enlightened by Dr. Gawande’s book, as it is wonderful for thoughtful people who seek to understand life.  Dr. Gawande is the author of three best-selling books and a doctor; his parents were both also doctors.

Gawande tells the touching stories of his own patients as well as his father, as he progressed and eventually died.  Tears came to my eyes at the passing of Gawande’s father. Personal stories are woven around surprising facts, such as the one about his medical school:  “Our textbooks had almost nothing on aging or frailty or dying.  Yet, death, of course, is not a failure.  Death is normal.”

Gawande spoke of his Indian grandfather, whom his family held in high regard, as was the custom. “He emphasized education, hard work, frugality, earning your own way, staying true to your word, and holding others strictly accountable for doing the same.” By contrast, now people tend to understate their age to census takers while in prior censuses people overstated it.

With all of our current-day problems, Gawande states, “There arguably is no better time in history to be old.”  He makes an interesting statement, “The veneration of the elders may be gone, but not because it has been replaced by veneration of youth.  It’s been replaced by veneration of the independent self.”

Life used to be short and medicine of little help.  “Over the years, the advent of sanitation and other public health measures sharply replaced the likelihood of death from infections, disease, especially in early childhood; and clinical advances dramatically reduced the mortality of childbirth and traumatic injuries.”

As time went on, “The progress of medicine and public health has been an incredible boom—people get to live longer, healthier and more productive lives than ever before.”

But death is still there.  Gawande states, “. . . for most of our hundred-thousand year existence—all but the past couple of hundred years—the average life span of human beings has been thirty years or less . . .”  So, today, with our average life span in much of the world climbing past eighty years, “we are already oddities living well beyond our appointed time.”

But there is danger to a healthy, old life.  The number of geriatricians in the United States has actually fallen by twenty-five percent between 1996 and 2010.  Incomes of adult primary care physicians and geriatrics are among the lowest in medicine.  I sincerely respect physicians and healthcare workers of all types.  They are noble, but they must take care of themselves, their families, and others, too.  And the elderly population is growing swiftly.

One sad fact is that, “Ultimately the average American spends a year or more of old age disabled and living in a nursing home (at more than five times the yearly cost of independent living). . . “ Planning for old age is something we don’t like to ponder.  If it could only be like Felix and Bella.  “At night they lay in bed in each other’s arms, awake and nestling for a while, before finally drifting off to sleep.  Those moments, Felix said, remained among their most cherished.  He felt they knew each other, and loved each other, more than at any time of their nearly seventy years together.” When Bella died, Felix “. . . had one great solace, however:  that she hadn’t suffered, that she’d got to spend her last few weeks in peace at home in the warmth of their long love, instead of up on a nursing floor, a lost and disoriented patient.”

Another patient in a nursing home has a drastically different experience:  “She felt incarcerated, like she was in prison for being old.”

In this review, generally, I am not going to describe the history of the care of the aged such as nursing homes, assisted living advances, and such.  The details in the book itself do a wonderful job at that.

I really enjoyed Carstensen’s reflections and analysis of growing old as stated by Gawande.  “Far from growing unhappier, people reported more positive emotions as they aged.  They became less prone to anxiety, depression and anger.  Living is a skill . . . The calm and wisdom of old age is achieved over time.”

Gawande reflected that how we spend our time may have a lot to do with how much time we expect to have left.  If you’re young and healthy, you’ll surmise that you will live forever.  “But as your time horizons contract—when you see the future ahead of you as finite and uncertain—your focus shifts to the here and now, to everyday pleasures and the people closest to you.” “It’s perspective, not age, that matters most.”  People, in general, live in a manner that fits their own life’s timeframe.

Gawande describes the “. . . Three Plagues of nursing home existence:  boredom, loneliness and helplessness.”  I fully agree with his later statement that, “We all seek a cause beyond ourselves.”  He writes, “The only way death is not meaningless is to see yourself as something greater; a family, a community, a society.”

In the United States, twenty-five percent of all Medicare spending is for the five percent of patients who are in their final year of life, and most of that money goes for care in their last couple of months that is of little apparent benefit. The question, therefore, is not how we can afford this system’s expense.  It is how we can build a healthcare system that will actually help people achieve what’s most important to them at the end of their lives.

Gawande cited a study by sociologist Nicholas Christakis.  In it he asked almost 500 doctors of terminally ill patients to estimate how long they thought their patient would live.  Just seventeen percent underestimated it.  The average estimate was 53 percent too high.

In a Coping with Cancer study, two-thirds of terminally ill patients stated they had no discussions with their doctors about end of life care.  Most of those that did elected hospice care.  “They suffered less, were physically more capable and were better able, for a longer period of time, to interact with others.  In addition, six months after these patients died, their family members were markedly less likely to experience persistent major depression.”

One chapter ended with a touching scene when a father whispered into his daughter’s ear, “It’s okay to let go.”  Gawande stated, later that morning, “she just stopped.”

Gawande put it beautifully in these words.  “Our ultimate goal, after all, is not a good death but a good life ‘till the very end.”

This is a finely crafted and useful book, long overdue.  I tried to decide at what age a person should be to read this book, partly because it pertains somewhat to disabled people as well as the elderly and all who care for therm.  So, use your own judgment and perhaps read the book because it applies to you, or very well may soon.

Spiritually, I believe that for God, all things are possible.  I believe in an eternal life in heaven, full of love.  I do not see death vanishing anytime soon, but I do believe that God loves us with an enduring, steadfast love and that God has predetermined Heaven on Earth with humankind’s help and cooperation, someday, somehow.

You can find this book by contacting your local bookstore, and on Amazon (http://amzn.to/1Bg1J9V), Barnes & Noble (http://bit.ly/1zAysk5), and many other online sources.

Imagine a World without Death

I recently read  a book about the whole process and history leading up to and including death.  I’ve written that as we move from The Innovation Age to The Spiritual Age, somehow, someway, God will eliminate death.  This book has not changed my mind.  But I will readily write that I don’t have God’s timeline.  Also, enormous difficulties are in our path:

·         Radical Muslims

·         Unsafe debt and entitlements

·         Nuclear warfare and use

·         Lack of water and unsafe water

·         Climate change

These obstacles stand out from others, yet there are many more.

For now, death awaits us, unless we improve ourselves through acquiring wisdom, shunning negative values, conquering internalized stigma and making stupendous advances in peace and security; freedom, democracies, prosperity, gender harmony, racial harmony, spiritual harmony, ecological harmony and health as well as moral purpose and meaning.

Each of us has our spiritual journey.  Sadly, many never take the first step.  Loving spiritual faiths can and do help us on our trek.

The sooner and the more ardent we are about our spiritual journey, the sooner we all will move through this Innovation Age to The Spiritual Age – Heaven on Earth.

The road ahead is uncertain as to its ups and downs and twists and turns; but the destination – Heaven on Earth – is an integral component of my faith.

As Harvey Cox wrote there are three mysteries in our lives – ourselves, others and everything else.  Our duty is, from birth, to seek wisdom and realize fully faith.

This faith must be a loving faith or it just doesn’t come from God.

Loving faith is something we all need, but we certainly don’t all possess.

We’re all children of God and have the free will to do bad things as well as good things.  It’s an honest statement – I believe – that we all can improve.

We have the gift of life and making mine count is what I am trying very hard to do.  I recommend the same for all – to seek wisdom, shun the negative values and realize that love, compassion and apathy are the base of humanity at its best – and why not the best?

I really don’t think heaven on earth is near – there is so much for us to do. But why not?  Humankind has come a long way just in the last 200 years of its 100,000 years of existence.  And I deeply believe God’s enduring, steadfast love is with us eternally.

Free will, in a way, puts humankind’s future in our hands, and that’s true.  But I believe Almighty God and our “little piece of God” will triumph, one by one, million by million, billion by billion.

God has the power to inspire us to allow us to deliver His message of love.

We are in a modern 21st century that can bring us bountiful gifts from God.  It’s His timeline, but we are part of the equation.

Wise Innovation–a key to the path toward Heaven on Earth

We are in The Innovation Age as clearly seen in technology.  As humans, we must change, too, in all our entities, groups, governments, and religions.  At the same time we must seek the wisdom-associated values and go about ridding ourselves of the negative values (See Copthorne MacDonald’s essay, “The Centrality of Wisdom,” in How to Achieve a Heaven on Earth.

The reality is that life itself is a process of change with many “bumps” in the road.  I had so many severe bumps from 1963 onward.  But, despite the pain along the way, there’s no question that I am much wiser than if my life had been success after success.  That certainly doesn’t mean that I want to go down in defeat.  Quite the opposite, I have important words to impart.  I deeply want to be a recognized and serious pathfinder toward Heaven on Earth.

A world full of robust, stable, prosperous democracies will be a peaceful world, and I fully intend to do what I can to promote that result.  A free, prosperous world will go about solving so many goals: ecological, harmony, health, spiritual harmony, racial harmony, and moral purpose and meaning.  It’s not a matter of possibility.  It’s definitely a matter of will—individually, and nation by nation.

Dedication of everyone from spiritual leaders to public servants to everyone else is essential to this awesome and wonderful undertaking of the ages, the dream of a heaven on earth, which I definitely believe was predestined by Almighty God from our creation.

Non-violence is part of the puzzle, even the abolishment of capital punishment.  Restorative justice, particularly for non-violent criminals, is so much better than revenge.  Non-violence is also crucial in the replacement of authoritative governments with democracies.  Revenge shouldn’t be foremost.  Freedom and democracy are too necessary that backward looking shouldn’t overshadow the opportunity of liberty and freedom.

When I write about prosperity, I am not glorifying materialism or consumerism.  It is just that financial literacy should be taught at all levels of education and serve to stabilize economies worldwide.  That, in turn, helps employment or self-employment or business formation or business growth, a very healthy situation, especially if we are altruistic.


From Hurting…To Helping

We must transform the world from people hurting people to people helping people, whether one is speaking of nations, corporations, other human entities or individuals.  There is an innate sense within us that seeks to help.  Let’s see that part of us reign—one by one, million by million, billion by billion.

There is no question that each of us and all of us have an enormous role to play in that inevitable march toward Heaven on Earth, which will include peace and security, freedom, democracies, prosperity, gender harmony, racial harmony, spiritual harmony, ecological harmony and health as well as moral purpose and meaning.

The road ahead probably won’t be easy.  But it will be enormously rewarding to everyone on our planet.

God is with us.  Who can really believe that we can’t succeed?  The world is getting smaller and smaller as globalization and technology march forward.  Let us adopt the wisdom-associated values of Copthorne MacDonald and shun the negative values he identified.

First, we must strive to say and do the right thing.  My belief is that God cares about this most.  We should live “The Golden Rule.”  Second, we must cultivate the values referred to above.  Third, beliefs that support these values and behavior must be respected and adopted one by one as each person’s whole being sees fit.

After a long spiritual journey, I now describe myself as spiritual, but not religious.  At the same time, I find so much truth, wisdom and values within the loving great religions of the world.  There is no question in my mind that the spiritual leaders of the great loving religions are all-important in our march toward Heaven on Earth.